Two missing teens back with families
By Frank abderholden firstname.lastname@example.org March 7, 2013 7:25PM
Updated: April 9, 2013 11:05AM
Two missing teenagers, one a 14-year-old girl from Ingleside, the other a 16-year-old girl from Mundelein have been reunited with their families and unharmed after gone missing.
“It’s a scary incident for the family. It’s a symptom of some dysfunction in the family,” said Jennifer Amdur Spitz, a spokeswoman for Waukegan-based One Hope United, which offers a family-focused counseling program for youth 11 to 17 who have run away and refuse to return home, or whose parents will not allow them to return home. The program draws upon all of the family’s resources to help reduce conflict and stabilize the situation.
For Linda Fabsits, 62, of Lake Villa, her missing granddaughter, Kaylie Perzigian, 14, worried her to no end. “I want to know this child is OK,” she said, adding how the 14-year-old used to like school and got a “Monroe” piercing that looks like Marilyn Monroe’s famous mole.
She stayed away for almost five days before she returned home.
Danas Scedrinaite of Mundelein thought his daughter, Paulina, 16, was doing fine because she had good grades and she recently made the high school soccer team. She disappeared from the sports complex at the University of Chicago where she was taking goalie classes Sundays.
University police showed him a picture of her walking out a back door of the complex toward Halsted Street where she apparently met a friend.
“Everything seemed fine. She never did anything like that,” he said. She returned home the following day.
Both families didn’t want to talk to the media after their loved ones returned home, but Spitz said it will be important for them to address the issue.
“If a child makes that type of a statement, it’s a major statement and they need to be heard,” she said. “It’s the responsibility of the parents to open that channel of communication.”
According to the National Runaway Safeline in Chicago, more than 70 percent of youth interviewed described their leaving home as occurring on the spur of the moment. Thirty-six percent who ran said they planned it in advance, while 23 percent who were thrown out said they expected to be thrown out and planned to run anyway. Fifty-six percent of youth who said they ran away also said that someone else knew they were planning to run away.
Youth commonly describe a significant family conflict that led to their departure or in many situations, family conflict has existed for a period of some time, resulting in a series of episodes.